How to Feel Good, Without the Pressure

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Hello dear friends, welcome to 2015!

I hope you had such a wonderful little holiday with those you love, or however you spent the special time of year that is late December.  It’s different for everyone, of course, let’s not pretend it’s always perfect bliss.  For some great, joyful; for some sad, lonely, annoying, but regardless – a time of the year when we all go a little bit inward and I think discover something new and important about ourselves and who we’re being as people in relation to other people.

For me, there was a lot of this – being close to family (how do I share my love?), choosing where to spend my time (am I favouring people? what are my priorities?) and who with (am I a bad person for not wanting to see that old friend?), deciding how to spend time off work (what do I do??? I can just do nothing?  Boring! lazy…)  I caught a cold, as often happens when I stop doing things completely and let my body catch up, and am forced to just rest, relax, and realize that I exist beyond what I do.

Then comes January!  What a strange, interesting, scary, exciting, overwhelming time in many ways.  I think all of us are reflecting in one way or another on the lives that we’re living – where we are at in them (usually NOT where we want to be, not far enough along, not doing enough, not being who we want to be, looking how we want to look, having what we want to have, and it goes on and on….).  Jeez, no wonder New Year’s resolutions happen.  We are so hard on ourselves!

And yes, all of us – no matter how it appears, feel this way.  There is always someone to compare ourselves, our lives, to.  The grass is always greener.

I purposely chose not to make any sort of resolution this year because, after making all kinds of different ones in the past – many of which seemed simple and totally doable – I’ve realized that they are based on the central idea that “I am not who I want to be, I’m not good enough, I need to do more”.  And that, I’ve learned, is just complete bullshit.

If we’re thinking that way, we’re setting ourselves up for failure and beating ourselves up because we’re never going to be happy with who we are.  Resolutions, I’ve concluded, are helpful tools for perpetuating poor self-esteem and preventing growth from actually happening.  If it helps to think of a nature metaphor here, we would never say to a tree “You’re not as tall as you should be by now, you need to be better,” or to a child, “silly child, you should be walking by now, you’re so behind!” – so why would we ever imagine saying such things to ourselves is okay?  Lack of love, lack of reverence.  THAT is what needs some attention here.

Learning to be happy, satisfied, fulfilled with what we have and who we are in our lives is not about reaching some goal or getting what we think we want someday – it’s about deciding to BE the person that we want to be each day, realizing that we already hold within everything we need to be that person.  And perhaps most importantly, it’s about trusting the timing of our lives.  We are exactly where we need to be right now.

Envisioning Our Future for the Year

What I do believe in the power of is envisioning and allowing ourselves to dream about what we would like the future of our year to look like, and beyond.  To create whatever you wish to create in this world, in this life, you’ve simply got to be a dreamer.  And I mean big dreams here, beyond little old you. I like this one:

Dreams are the seeds of change. Nothing ever grows without a seed, and nothing ever changes without a dream.” Debby Boone

Of course, you’ve got to act on those dreams and know that they’re possible, that they’re coming to you – to the world – through you.  You’re a vessel.  You’ve just gotta do it.  I’m telling you.  It also makes life a lot more magical and interesting!

I’d love for you to comment below this post and share a resolution that you’re getting rid of in the name of self-appreciation, or an intention or dream that you’re channelling out into the world right now.  It’s wonderful to connect and hear what others are up to in their everyday!

A Year of Harvesting

Something I learned recently is that 2015 is a “harvesting year”.  It gets me so excited!  Not just because I love relating the lives we live back to the garden, the earth, and the basis of life itself.  But because it helps to put into perspective the timing of our lives, all that we have built and developed and worked at, slowly but surely, over time.  It helps us, I think, to lose a bit of that pesky impatience and chronic dissatisfaction with our dreams (or goals, if you’re still working with those), and realize that we are making our way, leaving our mark, headed where we need to go.

If you think in terms of a year, plant a seed; if in terms of ten years, plant trees; if in terms of 100 years, teach the people.” Confucius

Essentially, what is meant by a harvesting year is that this is a year wherein we will be realizing and collecting the rewards of the seeds we have been sowing over the past 8 years.  We have been, and will continue to draw in the important people in our lives, who we will work and grow with over the coming several years.  So choose wisely!  We are in a year of progress and promise, where we will see the completion of what we have been working on and are called to re-envision the years to come.  A pretty spectacular opportunity!

This insight is based on astrological patterns and projections, specifically provided by Anne Ortelee.  Whether or not you tend to prescribe to such beliefs about the universal forces that drive our lives and behaviours, it’s at the very least, a very comforting and helpful idea!  

What Are You Envisioning in the Year(s) to Come?

Be gentle with yourself and realistic about what you can accomplish in 1 year, or 8, 10, or 100.  It can help to make both short and long-term intentions for this reason.  Changes can happen quickly (in your perspective, your personal life), but big change – the kind you want to make and see happen in your lifetime – well, it takes a lifetime.  That’s why it is your life’s work.

A little side note here about the status quo – we can of course, have zero interest in living a life that changes the world as we know it right now – this is a choice we make, and it determines our perspective on the world, our place within it, and ultimately our legacy.

However, it is also true that we each change and impact the world, without necessarily “trying” to, in our own small and unique way.  These are the little things we do each day, in and out, that I was talking about above.  The things that are about us Being who we want to be.  Forget feeling hopeless, like little you can’t do anything to change all that you see should be changed with the world, to help it be better in the ways that I know you see it can be.

Remember this:

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Feel Good, Without the Pressure

I want to let you all in on a giveaway I’m doing later in the month.  I’m a strong believer, as you know, in feeding our bodies well – real, delicious, whole foods – to help fuel our passions and dreams to come into the world in the most beautiful way possible.  If we feel good, we can DO good, and have the energy to do what needs to be done.  Not to mention that food is one of life’s great pleasures.

This is why I offer FREE seasonal cleanse plans, to help you gently reboot your body and mind and stay connected to the seasons, the earth, and the source of your energy, your life.  Pretty powerful stuff!  For this season, I decided that the perfect time to embark on our 10-day Winter Serenity Cleanse would be a couple of weeks into the New Year, letting ourselves get back into the swing of things with schedules and “regular life” and avoid any kind of pressure on to do something more, or resolve to be better.

All you need to do to get access to your cleanse guide is make sure you’ve signed up at www.gratitudefood.net (you’ll find this on the righthand side of the main page).

This is a whole foods cleanse, meaning you will be eating real delicious meals and simply cutting out processed foods that cause more harm to your health and immunity than good.  The idea behind this sacred period of connection with what you’re eating, is to build self love and deep respect for true nourishment – nothing more, nothing less.  Really simple, really powerful practice and I truly hope you’ll take part!

Wishing us all an incredible year ahead.

Lots of love

 

P.S.  If you liked, or were inspired by this – please share it with your friends so they can get inspired about their year too!

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