Very few of us actually know the answer to this question – what do you want to do/are you doing with your life? That’s the truth. Its a pretty difficult question to answer, even if we are lucky enough to know, and is overwhelming to say the least. If someone asks you this, instead of immediately feeling a sense of dread and inadequacy, you can instead feel okay telling them that if they knew you, they would know the answer, or if they got to know you, would learn.
Its not something that can be summed up in a neat little sentence, our individual purpose here on Earth. We all have so many facets, sides to who we are, little bits and pieces that make up the wonder of who we are and why we are here. Anyone who really knows us could paint a beautiful picture with words and feelings and colours describing what we bring to the world every day.
Try not to think of who you are as what you do. What you are doing with your life has more to do with your values and the choices you make, how you make other people feel, than what it is you’re “doing,” or filling your time with day in and day out. Remember this.
Many of those close to me have expressed in one way or another that they don’t have a strong sense of what they are “doing” with their life – they feel aimless, purposeless. I have felt this way myself and know the strife it can cause, the indecision or feeling of pressure to choose one path and really “do it”. And since our human experience is really not so different from the stranger over there, I can conclude that we’ve all felt this way at one time or another. Often times, things just happen in our lives amid these feelings of uncertainty – we make decisions, circumstances take us to a whole new place or job, children come along. Life happens as it is meant to, we experience what we need to grow and learn, and if we can stop worrying or feeling anxious about where to go next, what we are doing/not doing, we may be able to enjoy these happenings and better bring the absolute best of who we are to them.
This is important because if we don’t relieve ourselves of these pressures to decide, achieve, succeed – we are missing out on the true meaning of life, to be here fully – whatever the present moment is bringing, to give the best of ourselves, and to find joy wherever we can.
Maya Angelou said, “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it”. Seems simple enough, but as we all know, its a challenge we may work our entire lives to find the truth in. But the simplicity of these words guides us toward what our energy should really be focused on.
Liking “what we do” means following our passions, our strengths, that thing that we already know we love and would work at for no money.
Liking “how we do it” means putting in the effort and discipline (it takes a lot sometimes) to ensure that we have the skills and qualities necessary to follow these guiding forces of our soul to the best of our ability (to do it our genius way). It means learning through experience, reading books, listening to mentors, hiking/jogging/working out/moving regularly, meditating, whatever it takes to be the best we can be – while always checking in with ourselves to see whether we’re being true to that voice within. Not being someone else but being you, who has learned through others what does and does not speak to you.
This ties right into liking ourselves – doing the things that make us feel good, acting in accordance with our values, being the best person we know we can be, and making these choices every single day. A huge part of this one is valuing ourself, taking time to care for ourselves – physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Because we become the person we want to be by acting like that person today, I feel that a good place for us to start is taking that time for ourself, today.
1. I want you to write down a list of the things that you know you are passionate about in this world. What you love, what you wish to change, or influence, or contribute to creating in this lifetime.
2. Also write down the things/practices/habits you can start bringing into your life TODAY, to help you better contribute to your passion list. The little things you start doing now are part of the larger journey of getting to that place that you are already connected to – you just need to begin with small steps. These are probably things that have already crossed your mind many times – read that book, take that course, volunteer somewhere, make a contact, etc. Begin it now!
3. Next, I want you to simply take time to do something, little or big, each day that helps you to build a more positive relationship with yourself. Something that makes your mind say, “thank you for doing that for me,” or “you’re so good to yourself,” or “that felt awesome.” Make the time! This could also mean doing things for others, you know the things that make you feel good when you do them. Its all about feeling good and liking yourself. Because when you do, others others feel it, they want it too, and they reciprocate whatever it is you’re giving and putting out. Its contagious and its what we all need to bring more of into the world. Ourselves, full of love!
I hope this helps you feel calm in knowing where to go next, my friends.
Now here’s something that will get those positive feelings going, good healthy food is always the perfect place to start, and its just waiting to be shared with others! Magic.
I whipped these together last night, and man were they super easy and delish. Kind of an interesting combination, but it really worked and satisfied all flavour components. I had some fresh, steamed and pureed pumpkin on hand after making pumpkin bread, so this was the perfect way to use it up. I highly recommend taking the time to do this while its still pumpkin season, the texture and mildly sweet flavour is so much better than the canned puree. But, yes, canned pumpkin would work okay too. Mashed sweet potato or squash would be awesome here, too.
The combination of vitamins A & C from the pumpkin, along with the powerful immune-boosting properties of shiitakes is an incredible plant-based way of keeping those pesky cold & flu bugs floating around from settling into your system – more self-love!
Pumpkin, Shiitake & Feta Tacos
2 servings (4 small tacos)
1 1/2 cups pumpkin puree (fresh if possible – from 1 small sugar pumpkin)
1/4 cup sheep or goat’s feta cheese
1 tsp. ghee, coconut, or olive oil
1/2 cup sliced shiitake mushrooms (stems removed)
3 cloves garlic, minced
4 green onions, finely sliced
1/4 tsp. smoked paprika, or to taste
good pinch cayenne pepper (more if you like it spicy)
4 soft corn tortillas (I used Ezekial sprouted)
1. Peel, cube, steam and puree (in food processor or highspeed blender) your pumpkin ahead of time. Once pureed, and still warm, stir in feta cheese to melt slightly. If cooled, rewarm in pan over low heat then stir in feta.
2. Slice mushrooms. Warm ghee or coconut oil in small frypan. Add minced garlic and sautee just one minute, until fragrant. Add in the mushrooms, along with a large pinch of sea salt and a few cracks of black pepper. Sautee until lightly browned and softened. Stir in sliced green onions, cayenne, and smoked paprika and continue to sautee one minute more. Taste and adjust seasoning as desired. Remove from heat.
3. Warm your corn tortillas slightly in the oven or in a dry frypan, over low heat. Spread 1/4 of the warmed pumpkin/feta mixture over each tortilla. Divide the shiitake mixture amongst the 4 tacos, on top of the pumpkin. Add more toppings, if desired (I have a feeling avocado would be great with this).
4. Fold into taco shape and consume immediately. Enjoy and feel good!